Increase connection and intimacy
Couples Therapy
You’re relationship is worth the investment.
Couples Therapy
Couples work is special. It is a sacred space where two humans learn to be at their most vulnerable states in the presence of another. It is in our partnerships that our deepest wounds arise as they often mimic relational dynamics of our upbringing. Attachment styles of relating are identified and cycles of the couple interaction observed and highlighted.
You’re ready to have a deeper more intimate relationship with your partner.
We will identify the areas that are keeping you stuck and preventing the communication that you are desiring. We will dive deep to uncover the emotions underneath the fight about “the dishes.” This often comes up as abandoment or feeling criticized. We will take a history of how you learned to connect to others and the activation that happens when you try to communicate with your partner.
I often hear my couple clients express the following
“I don’t feel appreciated or seen”
“We want to improve our communication so we both feel heard”
“I often feel lonely in this and desire more meaningful connection”
“I often feel criticized and that I am not doing anything right”
“We struggle with intimacy'“
“How do we keep it interesting after years of commitment”
“I want to disagree without a yelling match”
“The trust has been broken, I don’t know how to get it back”
“I can’t get over feeling resentful”
What we’ll work on
Imagine a life where…
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
Your ability to communicate is improved.
You have less fear with conflict.
You feel less abandoned and/or criticized.
You have new insight into your partner.
You gain skills to navigate difficult conversations.
You experience more intimacy with your partner.
You gain the ability to co-regulate with each other.
You’re ability to trust increases.
You feel heard without yelling.
You feel less defensive and more connected.
You play more.
You feel less lonely.
You work together on common couple goals.
Our work together . . .
Identify your attachment style and way you are relating to each other.
identify your relationship cycle and the areas you get stuck.
Learn a language of communication that allows you to feel heard.
Create a narrative together of your ideal relationship.
Reading Recommendations
Hold Me Tight . . . Dr. Sue Johnson
Getting The Love You Want . . . Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. & Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D.
Come Together . . , Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship . . . Terrence Real
You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships . . . Richard Schwartz
Talk to Me Like Im Someone You Love: Relationship Repair In A Flash . . . Nancy Dreyfus Psy.D
Your Blueprint for Pleasure . . . Jaiya
Let’s get started.